WhitneyWhy Nice Guys Finish Last
March 21st 2009 10:44
It always seems that the nice guy loses the girl to the bad boy or the cocky guy. Well, there really is a reason for that. It's a sad reason, since deep down all women really want is the good guy- the guy who opens the door and pays for dinner. But, for some reason women typically pick the jerk.
Well, here's the deal. It's pretty simple...
Women want the good guy- again the guy who will treat her like a princess, but a lot of the time the jerk who treats her like she's just another female is typically the one who's picked first before the nice guy.
The nice guy is typically paired with boring and predictable, whereas jerks are typically going to be thought of as fun and exciting. Now, these are stereotypes by all means, but it's just how things work, and it sucks that this is how it goes.
Plus, most of the good guys who are kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, and loyal, lack chemistry because most of them lack confidence and respect for oneself. Most of the bad boys are very confident and cocky, which is why they typically get the women first; they wear them down and eventually the good guy gets the girl. But, it shouldn't be that way.
For a nice guy to get the first first, he can still be super, crazy sweet, caring, and respectful, but he needs to gain a little self-confidence.
By dotting hand and foot on the girl, the guy appears insecure and needy of the woman's attention, so by backing off a little, just enough to let the female have a chance value him because if he does everything that the woman wants without her having to try to tell him what she wants, then there's nothing for her to do in the relationship.
Basically, if you're easy to obtain and maintain, then that's considered a little boring in a relationship, when compared to a man who you have to work for (not literally).
The bad boy is considered stronger because the woman has to work a little harder to get his attention, whereas the good guy is already dotting hand and foot over the woman.
So, for the good guys out there who are tired of being told, "You're just a really good friend," if you act more confident and back off the affection just a tad bit, you'll have more women than the cocky dude next door.
Well, here's the deal. It's pretty simple...
Women want the good guy- again the guy who will treat her like a princess, but a lot of the time the jerk who treats her like she's just another female is typically the one who's picked first before the nice guy.
The nice guy is typically paired with boring and predictable, whereas jerks are typically going to be thought of as fun and exciting. Now, these are stereotypes by all means, but it's just how things work, and it sucks that this is how it goes.
Plus, most of the good guys who are kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, and loyal, lack chemistry because most of them lack confidence and respect for oneself. Most of the bad boys are very confident and cocky, which is why they typically get the women first; they wear them down and eventually the good guy gets the girl. But, it shouldn't be that way.
For a nice guy to get the first first, he can still be super, crazy sweet, caring, and respectful, but he needs to gain a little self-confidence.
Basically, if you're easy to obtain and maintain, then that's considered a little boring in a relationship, when compared to a man who you have to work for (not literally).
The bad boy is considered stronger because the woman has to work a little harder to get his attention, whereas the good guy is already dotting hand and foot over the woman.
So, for the good guys out there who are tired of being told, "You're just a really good friend," if you act more confident and back off the affection just a tad bit, you'll have more women than the cocky dude next door.
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I don't think it's entirely a lack of confidence, either. Some of the burden lies firmly with the women as they choose awful men. The nice guys just know how to bide their time and hang in there until the best opportunity comes knocking. The silly women lose out, the smart ones get the nice guys. Suits me.
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