WhitneyIs it Time to Move In Together?
April 19th 2009 13:06
Do you think that you and your relationship are both ready to take the next step by moving in with your significant other? It can be a hard thing to decide when the right time is. I've been there; I moved in with my ex less than 6 months after we had started dating, after another 6 months, I was back at home, and a few months after that we were barely even seeing each other any more. Although, it was a bad relationship that dragged on and off for 3 years and many factors led its death, moving in so soon definitely caused a few problems in the end.
The moral is that you should make sure that you really know what you're doing and how your relationship will fair before you move in together.
So, are you ready to be around your significant other all the time? Are you ready to argue about stupid things like toilet paper and dishes? Are you both on the same page? Is everything thought out?
You want to think about a few things that you want to think about before moving in together.
* Why do you want to move in together? Make sure that it's not just so that you can get a good apartment or house and not have to pay the full rent or mortgage fee. You want to make sure that you not only love the person but that you life him/her as well. If you don't like each other, then that's going to cause more problems, as love alone isn't going to be enough to keep a happy household.
* Where will you live? Have you figured out where you will live? Your place? Your partners? Or a whole new place? Is there going to be enough room? Will you be able to comfortably afford the place? If you're thinking about staying in a home that you or your partner is already living it, have you or your partner lived there with a previous ex? Will this cause problems in the future? There are a lot to think about in terms of where you will live, and those things should be thoroughly discussed beforehand.
* Who's stuff stays, and who's goes? You've got to make compromises about who's furniture stays and what goes, as well as pre-existing pets and other baggage that you already have. Will keeping your bed that you and ex's have shared, bothered your partner? Make compromises and remember to pick your battles.
You may want to consider just spending several nights a week at each other's place, but not necessarily selling or giving up your current place. By having that extra apartment or house, you always have that place to go for separation, if needed. You won't feel stuck.
Sometimes by spending time living with another person will give you the right notion and confirmation as to whether or not you two are truly compatible, but that doesn't mean that either of you have to get rid of everything and live together. Test the waters with just a few nights a week for a while.
Just because you've dated for over a year- more or less- that doesn't mean that you are ready to move in together. There is no time limit as to when you should move in together, and just because your friends are doing it, it doesn't necessarily mean that you and your relationship are ready for it.
There are many different things that you need to think about before moving in with your partner, all of which can't be listed here, as many factors are individual specific. You just want to make sure that the two of you are not just friends and lovers, but best friends and lovers. You want to be able to talk to your partner about everything and anything without being worried about what may be said or what may happen as a result.
Some people claim that if you can't see the relationship ending in marriage, then you may not want to spend the time, energy, and money living together, as you're wasting your time and your partners.
The moral is that you should make sure that you really know what you're doing and how your relationship will fair before you move in together.
So, are you ready to be around your significant other all the time? Are you ready to argue about stupid things like toilet paper and dishes? Are you both on the same page? Is everything thought out?
You want to think about a few things that you want to think about before moving in together.
* Why do you want to move in together? Make sure that it's not just so that you can get a good apartment or house and not have to pay the full rent or mortgage fee. You want to make sure that you not only love the person but that you life him/her as well. If you don't like each other, then that's going to cause more problems, as love alone isn't going to be enough to keep a happy household.
* Where will you live? Have you figured out where you will live? Your place? Your partners? Or a whole new place? Is there going to be enough room? Will you be able to comfortably afford the place? If you're thinking about staying in a home that you or your partner is already living it, have you or your partner lived there with a previous ex? Will this cause problems in the future? There are a lot to think about in terms of where you will live, and those things should be thoroughly discussed beforehand.
Sometimes by spending time living with another person will give you the right notion and confirmation as to whether or not you two are truly compatible, but that doesn't mean that either of you have to get rid of everything and live together. Test the waters with just a few nights a week for a while.
Just because you've dated for over a year- more or less- that doesn't mean that you are ready to move in together. There is no time limit as to when you should move in together, and just because your friends are doing it, it doesn't necessarily mean that you and your relationship are ready for it.
There are many different things that you need to think about before moving in with your partner, all of which can't be listed here, as many factors are individual specific. You just want to make sure that the two of you are not just friends and lovers, but best friends and lovers. You want to be able to talk to your partner about everything and anything without being worried about what may be said or what may happen as a result.
Some people claim that if you can't see the relationship ending in marriage, then you may not want to spend the time, energy, and money living together, as you're wasting your time and your partners.
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