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Depending on what you're looking for in your life, you'll find that no guy is going to be 100 percent perfect, and a guy that is perfect for your best friend of 10 years, may not have the traits that makes a guy like him perfect for you.

But, you can look for a few basic traits in order to help decide if the guy you're with is a keeper or should be tossed aside for another woman to deal with.

* He has is act together: Meaning he's not struggling to grow up and he's not still chasing his dream to be a rock star. Guys who have steady jobs, going to school, or both is going to be a good start. A guy with dreams and ambitions, is wonderful.

* He puts you first: You don't want to be thought of after he figures out his plans with the guys. You want to make sure that you're made a priority once in a while; that doesn't mean he's stuck up your butt, but just make sure that he puts your first. Consider taking the best piece of meat and offering it to you, as putting you first.

* He's not afraid of your cooties: If you're sick, throwing up, sneezing, whatever, and he wants to come by and take care of you, you want to keep him around.

* He's a family guy: He asks about your family and is really interested in what you have to say. He is even interested in his own family. It shows that he's accepting of your family and that he'll be good in a family with you.

* He makes time for your friends too: If you want to hang with your friends, you want a guy that's willing to show interest in your friends and hang out with you and them.

* He's your biggest fan: You want a guy that's going to be highly interested in you and your life. If something good happens in your life, you want him just as excited if not more than you are.

* He remembers the little things: It shows he really listens to you. If you can mention you have something going on such as a meeting the following day, and afterward he asks you how it went. Or, you're just taking the dog to the vet, and he remembers that you were going and asks how it went and if everything is ok. Another good thing about guys who listen is that they remember when there's something that you wanted; mention you really liked that purse or figurine, and on your birthday, anniversary, or another holiday, he boxes it up and gifts it to you.

* He's happy when you are: If he is willing to go to a movie you want to see, an event, play, opera, or anything else that you may want to do, then you may want to keep him around, especially if he goes without grumbling and making little comments like, "if I go to the play, will you go to the ball game?" Yes, it's give and take, but you should want to go because it'll make your lady happy.

* He makes you strive to be better: A guy who is able to make you feel like you're the luckiest person in the world and as though you are the prettiest and best person in his life, is one you want to keep around. You deserve a guy that is going to make you strive to be better.

It's not just how you feel about him and how he feels about you, it's also in how he makes you feel about yourself.

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Posted By: Whitney - Category: Dating & Relationships, Men

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Men's 6 packs are out and flabby bellies are in

August 26th 2009 21:02

Lately, more and more men are no longer worried about what they're bodies look like. They are giving up the 6 pack abs and huge biceps. They're letting their bellies go, and women don't care. It's become a trend really.

There's actually a name to it, believe it or not. Many are referring to the belly as the Ralph Kramden look. I'm not really sure why, but I'd have to venture out to say that it's because of a guy named Ralph.

You will find that men with a little pooch belly shows as a long standing symbol of prosperity in many cultures. Take Buddha in China; he's a little fat man that everyone worships. It's said that the belly shows prosper and happiness because you can afford to feed yourself, for lack of better words and for the purpose of simplicity. The male belly can also represent freedom from anxiety about one's body image that have plagued women since the dawn of mankind.

It's pretty simple. Now, men can be lazy and not work out or care diddly about their appearance for the betterment of a sticking trend.

How fair is that? If women decided to all go around with their bellies hanging out and basically just letting themselves go, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be called a fashion trend.

If only we could all say having rock hard abs is prissy and leave that as the excuse for not keeping in shape, we would all just let ourselves go. But, hey whatever. I have nothing against a man with a flabby belly. My last boyfriend and my current boyfriend both have a gut- whether from laziness or from drinking- it's there.

So yea, the Ralph Kramden is the new fashion trend for men, giving them the excuse to walk around without even trying to keep themselves in shape. But hey, someone had to have given them the idea that abs and muscular arms and shoulders was no longer masculine.

Some actually believe it's because of our current president, Obama. They say if the president walked around all slobbish, so would the men in the country. I'm pretty sure this isn't the case, but if that's what you want to believe so be it.

Anyway... Guess we're all here for flabby men. Sweet. ha Fat is the new sexy!

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Why do men cheat?

March 28th 2009 15:40

M. Gary Neuman surveyed about 200 men what makes men cheat on women, and he wrote it all down in his book- The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. These men are cheating and non-cheating men so that the statistics are more accurate, or at least as accurate as it can get.

Here are some of the findings as to why men cheat and what they are thinking...

48% of men cheat because of emotional dissatisfaction versus physical dissatisfaction. Only about 8% of men said they were sexually dissatisfied in their current relationship.

66% of cheating men said they felt guild during the affair, and about 68% of men who have cheated never thought that they would be unfaithful in a relationship. So, never put it past him to cheat.

77% of cheating men have a friend who has or is cheating, so because his friend may be a good guy in other areas, your man may feel it is ok to cheat because his friend has or is doing it. Now you can't prevent your man from hanging out with other men who are unfaithful, but you can choose your circle of friends carefully.

40% of cheating men met the other woman while at work. Most of the time it's a female who looks up to him and compliments him, which is why it's important that you compliment and give praise to you man at home. Men want compliments just as much as women do.

12% of men found that the other woman was more attractive than their steady girlfriend or wife, so that shows that men don't always stray because they think they can get better sex with a better looking woman.

6% of men said that they had relations with another woman the same day or night after meeting her, whereas 73% got to know the other woman for over a month before sleeping with her, giving you plenty of warning signs to watch out for before the deed happens.

Signs that your man may cheat on you or already is:
* Spends more time away from home
* Stops asking for sex
* Picks fights more frequently
* Avoids your calls and texts

Most men will deny thinking about cheating, especially if nothing has occurred yet, but you want to take charge of what you can control, which is your own behavior, when in the situation. Show your appreciation to your man, prioritize time together, and initiate sexual relations more. Make sure that he knows you care about him, and give him a reason to keep you in his mind all the time.

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Will He Cheat on You?

March 26th 2009 15:39

Something that you can never prepare yourself for is being cheated on, and there is not 100 percent true-fire way to determine whether or not you will be cheated on by your partner... The only thing that you can really do is trust and hope that your man doesn't cheat on you, but at the same time there are always factors that can play into the game as to whether or not he will have the tendency to cheat.

You can consider the following life and lifestyle factors when trying to decide if you think your man will cheat on you.

Growing up
* Was he a spoiled child?
* Do his parents baby him?
* Has he ever mentioned, or bragged, about cheating on an exam or paper?

If he has sailed through life, growing up with nothing to worry about and pretty smoothe waters, then he's probably not aware of the true consequences of life and of cheating. Yes, he may know them, but he probably doesn't think that he will ever experience any consequences because he's always been bailed out before.

Career
* Does he work mostly with women?
* Does he hold late hours with work, clients, or business trips?
* Does he have a high income?

Men are more often likely to cheat with co-workers than a random women he met at the store, so although it is great your man has ambitions and has a deep pocket, you want to watch out for an accident because the chances are higher when a man has more money. But, if he frequently invites you along to business meetings or to the office, and seems relatively happy when you call him while he's at work, then I wouldn't worry as much.

Smooth Talker
* Can he talk his way out of anything?
* Does he make extra effort to charm everyone?
* Does he insist on making rounds when at parties or social settings?

If your man is a charmer, then just be patient. Watch how he acts in these situations and with you while in the situations. If he's more or less interested in speaking with others and brushes you off, then you have a tad more to worry. Just remember that charmers do meet a lot of women. Just make sure that you get those side glances when at the party and the occasional nod, wink, or smile.

His Friends
* Does he typically hang with single guys?
* Do his friends encourage him to join them for guy-only activities?
* Do his friends have problems staying in relationships?

Clubs, bars, and parties are great places to meet women, and if your man's friends constantly want him to go with them, you have higher chances of an affair. Of course, not all men will make the mistake, but the odds are higher. His friends probably won't stop him from making out or taking another woman home, especially if they themselves have problems staying in relationships, so you can't rely on his friends to keep him faithful to you, and you definitely can't rely on them to tell you the truth. Just make sure that you're included some of the times when he hangs with his buds.

Remember there are always acceptions to the rules...

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Why Nice Guys Finish Last

March 21st 2009 10:44

It always seems that the nice guy loses the girl to the bad boy or the cocky guy. Well, there really is a reason for that. It's a sad reason, since deep down all women really want is the good guy- the guy who opens the door and pays for dinner. But, for some reason women typically pick the jerk.

Well, here's the deal. It's pretty simple...

Women want the good guy- again the guy who will treat her like a princess, but a lot of the time the jerk who treats her like she's just another female is typically the one who's picked first before the nice guy.

The nice guy is typically paired with boring and predictable, whereas jerks are typically going to be thought of as fun and exciting. Now, these are stereotypes by all means, but it's just how things work, and it sucks that this is how it goes.

Plus, most of the good guys who are kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, and loyal, lack chemistry because most of them lack confidence and respect for oneself. Most of the bad boys are very confident and cocky, which is why they typically get the women first; they wear them down and eventually the good guy gets the girl. But, it shouldn't be that way.

For a nice guy to get the first first, he can still be super, crazy sweet, caring, and respectful, but he needs to gain a little self-confidence.

By dotting hand and foot on the girl, the guy appears insecure and needy of the woman's attention, so by backing off a little, just enough to let the female have a chance value him because if he does everything that the woman wants without her having to try to tell him what she wants, then there's nothing for her to do in the relationship.

Basically, if you're easy to obtain and maintain, then that's considered a little boring in a relationship, when compared to a man who you have to work for (not literally).

The bad boy is considered stronger because the woman has to work a little harder to get his attention, whereas the good guy is already dotting hand and foot over the woman.

So, for the good guys out there who are tired of being told, "You're just a really good friend," if you act more confident and back off the affection just a tad bit, you'll have more women than the cocky dude next door.

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Questions Men Ask Themselves

March 20th 2009 11:41

Women aren't the only ones who ask themselves questions about men at certain parts in a relationship. Below are some of the common questions men ask themselves and think about during different parts of the new relationship. It's really one of those, "do I stay and see what's up," or "I think it's time to leave."

Here, check them out. If you have more to add, then by all means, add them

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