WhitneyHow to Make Female Friends
May 12th 2009 15:44
As a female with very few female friends, it can be hard to make them, especially when you prefer to hang with the boys. Some women just really prefer male friends, but it's always nice to have that female friend, or group of female friends, that you can rely on when you have a woman problem or relationship issue.
I have always gone to my male friends for advice with guys. Well, that's not necessarily all true, but for the most part, 8 times out of 10, I have and still do. Sometimes it's just easier to talk to men about other men than a women, who's coming from a female's perspective.
But, if you're really trying to make more female friends, then you want to remember that females can easily get intimidated by other attractive, intelligent, and successful women.
When keeping that in mind, women can be real bitches, so in most situations, if you're not one, then it can be hard finding non-snobby females to be friends with. But, they're out there. You just have to find the ones that have similar interests as you. You don't want to go to the salon to find female friends, if you'd rather be at the race track.
It can be harder to make female friends if you're looking all on your own, as that can look a little creepy, if you ask me. It's hard enough to make female friends, much less to run up to a group of girls and introduce yourself. You'll probably look like the town crazy, but hey that isn't the same with all girls, some may find you interesting and invite you right on into the circle.
You want to remember to be yourself.
If you're hanging out with all your guy friends, they probably have female friends- most guys do. Try to make friends with their girlfriends, if they have them. Make friends with their friends. You'll find that it's typically easier to make friends with your friends' friends because they're all friends because they have something in common, and if you're friends with them, then you'll have something in common, too.
Many females will make the most friends while at school or work, so if you are in school look around (don't do the creepy scope) and try to get to know the girls in your classes. Or, try to get to know the females in your office.
When trying to make friends with other females, try to consider some of the following tips:
* People are social beings, so sometimes if you just ask, you can easily ask a female that you may see regularly already, in class, at the gym, or at work, to hang out elsewhere. If you feel awkward about it, just start up small talk for a few days, and see if you have something else in common that you can pull from. Maybe she is wanting to see a new movie coming out that you're also waiting on.
* Find an activity that you're interested in and start taking classes. If you go to a recurring activity each week, you'll see the same people once or twice a week as you go to the class or activity. This is probably one of the best places to meet people, no matter what the class or activity is- whether it be a knitting class, exercise group, yoga class, scrapbooking group, or guitar lessons. By meeting people in a recurring activity, you know already that you will have something in common with the other females there. You know that you already get along, you see them regularly so you won't lose touch, and you'll be around people who are just like you and are looking to make friends.
Plus, when you meet people in an activity, you'll have a reason to make a date with the other person. If you are in a scrapbooking club, you can easily ask a few females from the group to come over and have a scrapbooking event at the house.
I just want to repeat that you want to be yourself.
I have always gone to my male friends for advice with guys. Well, that's not necessarily all true, but for the most part, 8 times out of 10, I have and still do. Sometimes it's just easier to talk to men about other men than a women, who's coming from a female's perspective.
But, if you're really trying to make more female friends, then you want to remember that females can easily get intimidated by other attractive, intelligent, and successful women.
When keeping that in mind, women can be real bitches, so in most situations, if you're not one, then it can be hard finding non-snobby females to be friends with. But, they're out there. You just have to find the ones that have similar interests as you. You don't want to go to the salon to find female friends, if you'd rather be at the race track.
You want to remember to be yourself.
If you're hanging out with all your guy friends, they probably have female friends- most guys do. Try to make friends with their girlfriends, if they have them. Make friends with their friends. You'll find that it's typically easier to make friends with your friends' friends because they're all friends because they have something in common, and if you're friends with them, then you'll have something in common, too.
Many females will make the most friends while at school or work, so if you are in school look around (don't do the creepy scope) and try to get to know the girls in your classes. Or, try to get to know the females in your office.
When trying to make friends with other females, try to consider some of the following tips:
* People are social beings, so sometimes if you just ask, you can easily ask a female that you may see regularly already, in class, at the gym, or at work, to hang out elsewhere. If you feel awkward about it, just start up small talk for a few days, and see if you have something else in common that you can pull from. Maybe she is wanting to see a new movie coming out that you're also waiting on.
* Find an activity that you're interested in and start taking classes. If you go to a recurring activity each week, you'll see the same people once or twice a week as you go to the class or activity. This is probably one of the best places to meet people, no matter what the class or activity is- whether it be a knitting class, exercise group, yoga class, scrapbooking group, or guitar lessons. By meeting people in a recurring activity, you know already that you will have something in common with the other females there. You know that you already get along, you see them regularly so you won't lose touch, and you'll be around people who are just like you and are looking to make friends.
Plus, when you meet people in an activity, you'll have a reason to make a date with the other person. If you are in a scrapbooking club, you can easily ask a few females from the group to come over and have a scrapbooking event at the house.
I just want to repeat that you want to be yourself.
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