Whitney5 Traits That Attract Men
May 28th 2009 20:02
If you're in a slump and can't seem to find the right man, maybe you need to work on yourself a bit. There are tons of traits that women have that men just don't like, so you want to figure out which traits men like so that you can enhance them in yourself in order to find your perfect man.
Here are five important qualities that will make you that much more attractive to men.
1.Self-Confidence- Just because you may have intellect, sexual appeal, and a sense a humor, it doesn't mean that you're automatically a guy magnet, especially if you do not have any confidence in yourself. If you lake self-confidence, in most cases men will just walk past you because women with a low self-esteem come across as needy and typically have to be the center of attention. Most women who lack confidence are always fishing for compliments and reassurance. Men don't want to be personal cheerleaders. Now, this doesn't mean that men want a women who will self promote and show herself off, but simple display interest and curiosity in him, as well as be willing to share the spotlight a little.
2. Enthusiasm- Men want women who have a passion for something, whether it be a hobby, job, education, social life, whatever... Single men are more attracted to women who have clear interests. By psyched about a new project or trip that you may be starting or going on. Women with passions in her life make men feel as though they are not solely responsible for her happiness, and he'll be more inclined to want to be a part of you rmultifaceted life.
3. Be able to Compromise- Women who are able to make compromises and can be flexible are more attractive than women who want it their way and their way alone. Being flexible typically means that there will be less conflict in the relationship, which means it will be a smoother partnership. Women who aren't willing to try to meet both her needs and his, typically shows the man that the relationship will be full of trivial disagreements and ultimatums, which is not the epitome of happiness, so be willing to reschedule your plans if need be.
4. Appearance- Stick with clothes that appeal to men. You may find that most of the clothes in your closet are too conservative. Men want to see curves, but make sure that you don't reveal everything. There is a fine line between sexy and desperate, and you don't want to seem desperate, as that certainly won't help your situation.
5. Be Over Your Ex- If you talk about your ex or your past relationships too much, you'll quickly find that it's just not attractive. Your new potential boyfriend just may feel as though you're still into him, whether you're saying good or bad things about your ex. No man wants to feel like he's competition to someone in your past. Plus, if you're still stuck on your ex, the new man will feel like you're not going to be motivated to make a connection.
Here are five important qualities that will make you that much more attractive to men.
2. Enthusiasm- Men want women who have a passion for something, whether it be a hobby, job, education, social life, whatever... Single men are more attracted to women who have clear interests. By psyched about a new project or trip that you may be starting or going on. Women with passions in her life make men feel as though they are not solely responsible for her happiness, and he'll be more inclined to want to be a part of you rmultifaceted life.
3. Be able to Compromise- Women who are able to make compromises and can be flexible are more attractive than women who want it their way and their way alone. Being flexible typically means that there will be less conflict in the relationship, which means it will be a smoother partnership. Women who aren't willing to try to meet both her needs and his, typically shows the man that the relationship will be full of trivial disagreements and ultimatums, which is not the epitome of happiness, so be willing to reschedule your plans if need be.
4. Appearance- Stick with clothes that appeal to men. You may find that most of the clothes in your closet are too conservative. Men want to see curves, but make sure that you don't reveal everything. There is a fine line between sexy and desperate, and you don't want to seem desperate, as that certainly won't help your situation.
5. Be Over Your Ex- If you talk about your ex or your past relationships too much, you'll quickly find that it's just not attractive. Your new potential boyfriend just may feel as though you're still into him, whether you're saying good or bad things about your ex. No man wants to feel like he's competition to someone in your past. Plus, if you're still stuck on your ex, the new man will feel like you're not going to be motivated to make a connection.
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Comment by Nevar
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Be decisive when asked questions. Waffling makes men crazy.
Don't dis all of his friends and family on the first date.
Allow your fellow to be himself, and don't fake interest in activities you don't enjoy or make him give them up.
All in all, a great post Whitney.
Comment by Morgan Bell
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* disclaimer: statement may only be accurate for 99.9% of men
Comment by Whitney
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Morgan, it's a pretty true statement if I've ever saw one.
Comment by Raoul Duke
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I find each point quietly fascinating and at the end briefly wondered if everything had been covered, and it had.
Y'know so little is written about this with the angle toward men, well, none that I'm really aware of. It's refreshing. It's generalising of course, but still provides an interesting cross section ...
It helps to like porn too.
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Comment by Nevar
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The reason why is simple; should the relationship begin to mature and become intimate, things get creepy because if your fella really wants to be intimate with a surrogate mother, he may as well stay home and wait for dad to go to work.
For most men, being treated like a child will have a negative impact on a potential relationship ~ contrary to what the less experienced lady may believe.
Forget mothering. . . forget the porn
Comment by The wonderful Peter Yang
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A girl might be able to stand the fact of been second place to another woman, within their boy friend's heart.
But not guys, trust me. I am a guy and I dump my last girl friend because I believe deep inside she is still in love with her ex who treat her like crap.
Apart from appearance, I think the one real thing a guy look for in a relationship is a girl that can also be his best mate and be his cheerleader when he need support.
As for appearance, I hate to tell you this girls, just because a guy find you attractive do not necessary mean they love you.
Comment by Lilla
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I enjoyed this article and have to agree with Nevar's additions. . and I would add that I have found over the years that leaving a man to his freedoms and is probably paramount to continued attraction. Of course one would draw the line at fidelity if it was important. I agree that far from mothering, it seems that real men actually prefer to grow up and have their space. I know real women do which supports your first piece of advice; very true.
The fact that giving a man his freedom can often end up involving hobbies which can cost fortunes and detract from the household is another matter altogether *lol* not to mention the man with wandering eye when left to his own devices. . but then this type would wander anyway, no matter whether you gave him freedom or not. Better to find out sooner than later I reckon
An interesting post.
Lilla . .
Comment by Lilla
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I must say i found your comment strange and perplexing. .
1. because it puports to an intimate knowledge of men; which in my limited knowledge of A sexual preferences, would be impossible for you to have experienced first hand? and;
2. because the naivete of the comment itself proves perhaps that you are inexperienced in this field as one would expect an A sexual to be?
In my experience as a heterosexual female, heterosexual men do not like mothering at all, 100% of the time, far from it.
Lilla ..
Comment by Lilla
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In Fact they say that in good relationships cooking is often (or should be) approached with wild abandon, just like lovemaking!
Perhaps that*s what*s wrong with the world, too many men wanting their dinenrs on the table when they get home?
Comment by Morgan Bell
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i have parents that have been married for 30 years and both male and female friends in varying stages of relationships, i used to work almost exclusively with married middle aged men for the bulk of my career
i dont really see how my sexuality precludes me from making observations about the world i live in
just because your experience is different to mine doesnt make mine naive
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