WhitneyHow to Get my Boyfriend's Friends to Like Me
June 5th 2009 12:49
When dating, it can be hard to get your new boyfriend's friends to treat you or think of you like an equal versus just a girl who's dating their friend. And, this can be a problem, especially if you find your boyfriend's friends interesting and nice people. It's hard to get over that 'just a girl dating their friend' feeling, especially if your boyfriend doesn't include you as such.
You want to definitely talk to your boyfriend about the situation so that he knows how you feel. Maybe he already knows how his friends feel about you and can console you a little bit. That or he can talk to them.
But, if you want to do it all on your own, it's kind of like making your own friends. Just start fresh. Try to follow their lead a bit when you're all hanging out. Add your opinions and 2 cents into the conversation.
If you're not into doing what they're doing, either suck it up or don't go that night, but you never want to force your boyfriend not to go, especially if he wants to go, just because you don't want to. This just won't put you in a good light in his friend's eyes.
Sometimes it can be good to get them one at a time, and talk to each friend individually. Not in a creepy sense, but if you want to bring something up or if you know something that one of his friends may like and you're interested in it to. IE if a new movie is coming out and you know that one of your boyfriend's friends was waiting to see that movie, start a conversation with him about the preview or trailer that you saw.
If you can still hang with the guys, joke, and play around, then they'll respect you more than just a girlfriend of a friend. This may not work with all girls or with all guys, but if you have the right personality, and if his friends see that you and your boyfriend really are good together, then they will take note.
I know in my current relationship, there are many things that I have NO clue about that my boyfriend and his friends do and are interested in, such as four wheelers, cars, dune buggies, and other off-road vehicles; they're real big into making things and altering things to fit their off-roading lifestyle. We all hang out on the weekends, and even though I can't help weld, grind, or cut metal, I can still sit there and joke with them, which looks good on my part because I'm not constantly bitching and moaning about being bored, tired, cold, hot, etc., whereas my cousin who dates one of the friends, is that girl- the one who constantly complains. They're not a big fan of this, and I've even heard them refer to her as 'a cool girl who dates their friend.' I don't want to be that girl.
You want to definitely talk to your boyfriend about the situation so that he knows how you feel. Maybe he already knows how his friends feel about you and can console you a little bit. That or he can talk to them.
But, if you want to do it all on your own, it's kind of like making your own friends. Just start fresh. Try to follow their lead a bit when you're all hanging out. Add your opinions and 2 cents into the conversation.
If you're not into doing what they're doing, either suck it up or don't go that night, but you never want to force your boyfriend not to go, especially if he wants to go, just because you don't want to. This just won't put you in a good light in his friend's eyes.
Sometimes it can be good to get them one at a time, and talk to each friend individually. Not in a creepy sense, but if you want to bring something up or if you know something that one of his friends may like and you're interested in it to. IE if a new movie is coming out and you know that one of your boyfriend's friends was waiting to see that movie, start a conversation with him about the preview or trailer that you saw.
If you can still hang with the guys, joke, and play around, then they'll respect you more than just a girlfriend of a friend. This may not work with all girls or with all guys, but if you have the right personality, and if his friends see that you and your boyfriend really are good together, then they will take note.
I know in my current relationship, there are many things that I have NO clue about that my boyfriend and his friends do and are interested in, such as four wheelers, cars, dune buggies, and other off-road vehicles; they're real big into making things and altering things to fit their off-roading lifestyle. We all hang out on the weekends, and even though I can't help weld, grind, or cut metal, I can still sit there and joke with them, which looks good on my part because I'm not constantly bitching and moaning about being bored, tired, cold, hot, etc., whereas my cousin who dates one of the friends, is that girl- the one who constantly complains. They're not a big fan of this, and I've even heard them refer to her as 'a cool girl who dates their friend.' I don't want to be that girl.
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Comment by The wonderful Peter Yang
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For us guys, relationship is not important at all. For me, in my life there firstly, is me, scodnly,my job, thirdly me enjoying life, four my dog, five my family, six my friends, seven watching cartoon in the morning, eight picking a fight with people in chat room, nine eating Big Mac, ten playing video game. And then after all this there is relationship ranking all the way in the bottom. (I know, suck to be my girl doesn't it.)
But still I don't get why some girls take relationship so seriously, it is not a necessity of life, you know, it is just...luxtury.