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Boyfriend Cheated, How to Reconcile

August 5th 2010 12:37
The important thing to remember, is that you love him, and you've obviously made the decision to try to move past this to reconcile your relationship. That is great. Just remember that there is nothing on the internet, in a book, or in a magazine that will tell you what the 100% right thing for you to do. None of your friends, or his, will be able to tell you what you you should. The decision is yours to make, and there is no wrong answer. All you have to do is to figure out what you want, and give that a try. If it doesn't work out, then you can say that you tried.

So, when trying to figure out what to do next, after you found out your boyfriend has cheated is truly up to you. Some of the suggestions that may be made include:


* Take some time off to think and clear your mind, before going back. Although, this may be hard with the trust issue now at hand, many think that it's a good idea to take the time off to think.
* Talk things through. Although, you'll never get all of the answers that you want, as sometimes there just aren't answers, especially if your relationship was otherwise perfect without any problems. You and your boyfriend still need to sit down and talk.
* Don't get mad, angry, or blame yourself. You did not cause anything to happen. You may go through many emotions while processing the events and while healing, but you want to pull your friends closer.
* Therapists are available to talk to. You may want to consider talking to a therapist by yourself for a while, and then consider a couples counselor.
* You want to rebuild the trust, so make him work for it. Don't harass him, but find ways that he can help rebuild the trust. Don't let it fall solely on him, as you will need to try, as well.


Honesty is the key to rebuilding a relationship after someone has cheated.





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Boyfriend Cheated, How to Move On

August 3rd 2010 12:36
First and foremost, there is nothing that you will ever read on the internet, in a book, or in a magazine that will tell you what is the right thing for you to do. Your friends can't even tell you what is right for you. You just have to know what is right for you, and there's no wrong answer, just choices to make.

If your boyfriend or spouse has cheated on you, it's hard to say what to do next. Depending on your relationship, you may want to just end the relationship and move on. That is your choice and nothing wrong with that option.

If you decide to move on without your man, you want to cut him off completely. It will be hard, but you will heal. There's no time frame that it may take you to heal and be able to trust again, but just know that you will be fine and you will be able to move past the incident.

For many people, the best thing to do is to remove all aspects and reminders of your new ex from your life, whether that means remove the pictures on the night stand, or the ring from your finger.

You can be friends with him, but not right now. You want to say your peace during the break up, and leave it like that. If you drag it out and try to be friends right off the bat, you may find that the feelings are still there, and you may go back to him. This is fine, if that's what you think is right for you to do, but it's not always the right choice. In many cases, it can be best to stop communications with the cheating boyfriend until you have healed.

There will be many questions you want answers to, but you may not always get these answers. You'll have to deal with it. I hate to say that, but in some cases, that's just the case. He may not know why he did what he did, so you may never get that answer.

If you need to, don't be too proud to get professional help. Therapists are available to help if you need it.

And, of course, always rely on your friends. This is something that you can move past, and it is something that you will be able to grow from. There is a reason behind everything, and although, this is a very hard event to have to go through, you can do it.

There are many guys out there that will be faithful and worth your time. Do not go hunting, until you know that you are ready to move on.



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Single Christian Looking for Love

January 12th 2010 21:52
If you're a single Christian looking for someone with your same values, it may be hard to find that right man. When you work, go to school, and socialize with the same basic people all the time, it can be hard to go outside of that box.

Well, Christian Singles is a great online dating site for Christian men and women. You'll be able to find genuine people who want the same thing in life as you to - to lead a Christian life.

Just be careful. When meeting people online, you don't know who and what you're really getting and meeting. You don't want to just look at a picture and set a date to meet. It's recommended that you talk online, via texts, and even on the phone, many times before you ever meet. You want to make sure that you're comfortable with whoever it is you're talking to.

Also, make sure that when you're ready to meet the potential love of the rest of your life, that you set a public meeting place, and make sure that someone knows where you will be and when just in case.

You want to make sure that you keep your safety at heart. No matter how desperate you may feel that you are for a man in your life with the same morals and values as you, never let your safety slip out of the window. Not everyone online is legit, and it's rather sad, but some people will take advantage of Christians who are looking to meet their soul mate.

There are a lot of crazies out there, but if you want to give online dating a try, and you're a true Christian, definitely check out ChristianSingles.com


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Does Your Boyfriend Love You?

December 26th 2009 16:12
Sometimes it can be hard to figure out whether or not your boyfriend really loves you or not. You don't want to get too far into a relationship with your feelings growing and his still teetering on commitment issues. It's better to figure things out sooner than later. For the most part, you can use your intuition as to whether or not the feelings are mutual, but it's nice to know it 100 percent for sure. Remember that actions really do speak louder than words, so even if he says it, do his actions show you that he really does love you?

You will find that when trying to figure out what your boyfriend is saying can be hard or simple. It's really a crap shot. First off, though, men are usually pretty sincere when they tell you they're feelings. Look him in his eyes, and if he's looking you right back in the eye, he's probably being honest. If he's looking all over the place, then I'd be a little leery.

If your boyfriend really loves you, he will make time for you. He'll make you his number one priority and everything else will and can take a back seat. He'll be there when you need him most.

Your boyfriend will respect you. Men respect people they love. He'll talk to you about personal issues, family problems, and he'll share his feelings with you, especially if you're involved. If you're boyfriend really loves you, he'll be there to back you up and he'll respect whatever path you choose to take in life (of course hoping that it includes him).

A man who loves his girlfriend will not forget important days, whether it's your anniversary, birthday, or an important appointment or meeting.

If you're not 100 percent that your boyfriend loves you, talk to him. If you need that extra reassurance, a boyfriend who truly loves you will give you that without any hesitation.

Hot to Know if Your Boyfriend Loves You


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Sex is Bad on Women's Health

December 9th 2009 13:36
Well, not really and truly, but sex without an orgasm can be potentially bad for a woman's health. If a woman doesn't experience an orgasm during sex, she can develop diseases such as mastopathy or myoma due to stagnate blood.

When the woman doesn't have an orgasm, the body undergoes serious stress. The arousal leads to increased levels of estrogen and blood that surges through the reproductive organs. Without an orgasm, the blood will sit there, but during an orgasm, the blood is removed and the body is cleaned of pathogenic bacteria.

If the woman doesn't experience an orgasm, and the blood sits there, various diseases can develop.

It's already been proven that men who don't achieve an orgasm during sex can have their lifespan cut short, where men who do experience orgasms can live nearly twice as long as those who rarely experience it.

The number of times and how often you have sex isn't that important in regards to health, but it is thought that those people who are intimate as often as possible maintain better health and youth. You just want to make sure that you can please your partner and yourself in order to achieve optimum health and lifespan.

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Cheap Date Ideas

December 2nd 2009 20:10
You can go on a date with your partner and spend little to no money. You don't always have to go out to a fancy restaurant, see a movie or play, and then do whatever else you want to do. That just gets plain expensive. You can still spend a pretty afternoon with your partner riding bikes down a scenic trail.

Depending on what you're looking at spending, you can consider some of the following ideas for a cheap date


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How You're Ruining Your Relationship?

November 28th 2009 18:32
Everyone has problems, and no one is perfect, but when it comes to a relationship, you want to make sure that you can figure out all the kinks, or at least most of them. You don't want to let your bad habits and insecurities get in the way. Correct them in order to make the relationship that much better.

1. If you have insecurities about your body, you'll show little signs of covering yourself when you're naked and your partner is around. Compliments make you nervous and uncomfortable, and you sometimes have thoughts of, 'why is he even with you." Your partner notices these things, even if you don't say anything flat out, especially if you start to withdraw sexually


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Wait to Have Sex in a New Relationship

November 24th 2009 18:16
When starting a new relationship, and while just dating period, it's always a big question as to when to start having sex with someone. You should always wait until you're ready and you feel comfortable with the person, but you'll find that it really is a big benefit to you and the relationship to wait as long as you can.

Before taking off your chastity belt and untying the ribbon to your special package, you want to consider the benefits of waiting


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Getting Over a Breakup

November 20th 2009 17:54
No matter how you look at it most breakups suck and most are hard to get over. Even in abusive relationships or relationships that end because of an affair, one party is glad that it happened but sadness that is accompanied by the breakup no matter how or what caused the ending.

In some cases, you may know the breakup is going to happen, and in other cases you may not. It doesn't matter. Breakups just suck.... Period... End of story


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Check out The Best Dating Sites

November 16th 2009 14:31
There are dating sites for everything and anything. By choosing a dating site that best suites what you're looking for, you'll be able to best choose someone that you will be compatible with. You never know who you may find that you may not have found otherwise.

By searching the online dating field, you can find so many more people than those who you may run into on a daily basis. Your true love may be out there, and you can find him or her if you spend a little time checking out the field


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