WhitneyGetting Over a Breakup
November 20th 2009 17:54
No matter how you look at it most breakups suck and most are hard to get over. Even in abusive relationships or relationships that end because of an affair, one party is glad that it happened but sadness that is accompanied by the breakup no matter how or what caused the ending.
In some cases, you may know the breakup is going to happen, and in other cases you may not. It doesn't matter. Breakups just suck.... Period... End of story...
But, that's nothing new. You know it's going to be hard, even if you're the one ending the relationship. It's just a matter of making it through without calling the other person or without changing your mind.
If you know the relationship is over, just let it die. In many cases, you just want to end all communication with the person. Don't drag it out and pretend you can be friends, if you know that's really not the case. Cut your ties.
You may be able to be friends later on, but you both need time to lick your wounds and to fully 100 percent get over each other. Even if you ended on good terms, you want to make sure that you give each other time to differentiate the difference of friends and a relationship.
Don't sit at home and dwell on what was. You don't want to dwell on memories and anything that reminds you of times when your relationship was at its best. There's just no point in it, and if your relationship ended because of an affair or anything like that, you don't want to trick yourself into thinking you can ever have that back. You may or may not be able to forgive the situation, but by dwelling on the best times you had together, you're not helping the situation.
Since you're single again, reconnect with friends. Make new friends. Go to the movies. Go shopping. Keep yourself busy, and keep yourself busy with people who you love and love you back. Your friends will always be there for you. Remember that.
Also remember that it's time that you think about your self. You no longer have to worry about your ex. You can do what you want to do when you want to do it. If you want to go to the club Friday night, do it. If you want to sit at home and have a girls night in, have fun.
Just don't eat yourself through the break up. Foods may help comfort you, but there's just no reason to eat an entire bucket of rocky road ice cream while watching sad movies at home by yourself in the bed.
Do things that make you happy. Be single. Think about yourself for once. Take time to take care of you. Take up a new hobby or try something that you've been wanting to do.
In some cases, you may know the breakup is going to happen, and in other cases you may not. It doesn't matter. Breakups just suck.... Period... End of story...
But, that's nothing new. You know it's going to be hard, even if you're the one ending the relationship. It's just a matter of making it through without calling the other person or without changing your mind.
If you know the relationship is over, just let it die. In many cases, you just want to end all communication with the person. Don't drag it out and pretend you can be friends, if you know that's really not the case. Cut your ties.
You may be able to be friends later on, but you both need time to lick your wounds and to fully 100 percent get over each other. Even if you ended on good terms, you want to make sure that you give each other time to differentiate the difference of friends and a relationship.
Don't sit at home and dwell on what was. You don't want to dwell on memories and anything that reminds you of times when your relationship was at its best. There's just no point in it, and if your relationship ended because of an affair or anything like that, you don't want to trick yourself into thinking you can ever have that back. You may or may not be able to forgive the situation, but by dwelling on the best times you had together, you're not helping the situation.
Since you're single again, reconnect with friends. Make new friends. Go to the movies. Go shopping. Keep yourself busy, and keep yourself busy with people who you love and love you back. Your friends will always be there for you. Remember that.
Also remember that it's time that you think about your self. You no longer have to worry about your ex. You can do what you want to do when you want to do it. If you want to go to the club Friday night, do it. If you want to sit at home and have a girls night in, have fun.
Just don't eat yourself through the break up. Foods may help comfort you, but there's just no reason to eat an entire bucket of rocky road ice cream while watching sad movies at home by yourself in the bed.
Do things that make you happy. Be single. Think about yourself for once. Take time to take care of you. Take up a new hobby or try something that you've been wanting to do.
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